Nothing..ButSomething..: Journey towards love

Apparently i was thinking last night about relationships and love. I look around at other couples (ones I know and ones I don’t) and I think, how do they do it? There are so many of my friends who are still struggling, still seeking. All searching for that perfect relationship, the one that we think will knock us off our feet. And now my question is,

What is love???that's the million dollar question with billion more answers. Only god can precise it..

Love is true devotion to someone beyond yourself. Love is a passion; love is kind, trust respect and truth. Love is when you think that every single bit of a person is amazing. Words can't describe love fully.We may need a new language to define it. Love is an emotion. Love is life. Without love life has no meaning. That's what love is. Love is a complex thing.We may not supposed to explan it, But We can feel it.Love is giving your all with all your heart. Trusting with your eyes closed. Caring, nurturing, believing, and never expecting anything in return.It is the strongest force in the universe.

I hope it satisfies my question as answers. Everyone's definition is different. Only you know what true love is for you. Guess im still discovering what it is!!!

Greek words for love

In the English language we have just one word to describe the various types of love; that is, the word “love.” In the Greek, there are three distinct words to describe love: eros, phileo, and agape. Each one describes a different expression of love.

Eros love has to do with sensuality. It is physical and erotic. It yearns to have its own hunger satisfied.

Phileo love transcends physical desire. It is normal human affection toward anyone or anything that is enjoyable or satisfying. Phileo is emotional and unpredictable. It lasts as long as it is being gratified. However, once the pleasure or desire is gone so is the phileo.

Agape love is an unconditional and giving love. It is active and motivated by what it can do for others, and it does not expect anything in return. It is not based on feelings, but is constant and stable. It can love when hated. It can give freely regardless of one’s attractiveness or worth.

Triangular Theory of Love

Psychologist Robert Sternberg proposed a triangular theory of love that suggests that there are three components of love: intimacy, passion and commitment. Different combinations of these three components result in different types of love. They are as follows,

Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time). Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.

-Intimacy alone is Liking (true friendship without passion or long-term commitment)

Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone. Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.

-Passion alone is Infatuation (passionate, obsessive love at first sight without intimacy or commitment)

Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship. Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.

-Commitment alone is Empty Love (decision to love another without intimacy or passion)

Romantic Love: Intimacy & Passion, no Commitment

-Lovers physically and emotionally attracted to each other but without commitment

-“As in a summer romance”

Companionate Love: Intimacy & Commitment, but no Passion

-Long-term committed friendships or a marriage in which the passion has faded

-I love you but I’m not IN love with you

Fatuous Love: Passion & Commitment, but no Intimacy

-Commitment based on passion with without time for intimacy to develop
-Shallow relationship such as a whirlwind courtship

Consummate Love: A complete love consisting of all three components

Somewhat we can able to categorize it based on types. Unfortunately no one is capable of classify based on the feelings we have. Love is a mixed combo pack filled with feelings that we want to express sometimes may not.

Right from the time of birth we develop our own theories of love. This is how we relate to the world. Many influences can be a part of this. Our family for one, siblings, cousins aunts and uncles, plus our first initial attempt into love at school or who we admire as our teachers, Movie starts, leaders, and maybe even the un known person we meet at the local bus stop.